When 17-year-old Mathew first joined the MAPS Mentoring programme, leaving the house felt overwhelming.
Living with high anxiety and situational mutism, he struggled to speak in new situations and rarely felt comfortable outside familiar surroundings. Even the idea of meeting someone new felt daunting. When asked what he hoped for in a Mentor, Mathew simply shared that he wanted someone who was “kind and gentle.”
MAPS matched him with a 78-year-old retired teacher and former foster carer who had spent decades supporting young people. Although she had recently stopped fostering, she still felt strongly that she had something valuable to offer.
“I feel too old to be fostering now,” she explained, “but I still want to be able to help young people.”
What she brought to the relationship was calm consistency. She never rushed Mathew or pushed him beyond what felt manageable. Instead, she shared stories of her own experiences and mistakes, modelling patience and emotional regulation.
Over time, Mathew began to change. His ability to manage overwhelming feelings improved, and he gradually became more confident navigating everyday situations. He also developed a greater awareness of online safety and independence.
“My Mentor helps me feel calm,” he said.
A similar transformation happened for Tia, an early teenager who had withdrawn from education and was spending most of her time alone in her bedroom. Without a wider family network around her, she often felt isolated.
She was matched with a 77-year-old former teacher whose steady and nurturing approach created a safe space without pressure. In the beginning, engagement was slow and attendance inconsistent. But the Mentor remained patient, encouraging Tia to choose when and how they met.
As Tia’s sense of control grew, so did her confidence. Attendance stabilised, she began exploring new activities, and she started to think more positively about her future.
“It gets me out, and I like having someone to speak to,” Tia said. “My Mentor is kind.”
The impact of these relationships goes both ways. For the Mentors, many of whom have spent their lives supporting others through teaching, fostering or community work, mentoring provides a meaningful way to continue contributing their experience and wisdom.
